'Cause getting your dreams
It's strange, but it seems
A little - well - complicated
There's a kind of a sort of, cost
There's a couple of things get, lost
There are bridges you cross
You didn't know you crossed
Until you've crossed
(Lyrics from Thank Goodness, from the musical Wicked)
As the wish card in tarot, the 9 of Cups seems like it can do no wrong. Reversed though, well lets look at how I see it.
I always try to relate my understanding of a card with an experience from my life, that way it makes it easier to understand. The above song lyrics tend to resonate so well with how I see the 9 of Cups reversed.
Using the RWS card, the man in the card seems to be sitting, claiming his space, arms crossed and a hint of a smug look on his face. This is someone who seems to be in a stance of arrogance, closed off and with little regard for anyone else's feelings or opinions No matter what is happening he is going to put himself at the forefront of any situation. His own inflated self importance is almost sickening.
Behind him are 9 cups, upside down, I think we all know that an upside down cup is an empty cup.so what exactly is this telling us?
The man is too arrogant to realise the cups are even there, is this someone's emotions being drained? is it their dreams being tipped away? and still the man sits there, smug and full of his own ego.
How did this card go from being the 'wish card' to a card of shattered dreams.
Maybe this man is so wrapped up in how everything affects him and his world, that he ignores the emotional upset he is causing.
He has no interest in seeing what is happening behind him, he is the centre of his world and his dramas.
At some point this man was the epitome of contentment, he was the fruition of our deepest desires, hopes becoming real, and dreams manifesting.
Somewhere along the way this changed and this wonderful feeling of a dream come true, of emotional fulfillment has become a feeling of complete emptiness, of emotions spilled or simply drained. And yet there he sits pompous, self righteous and full of denial that he has caused this. His back turned, determined not to look at the devastation and loss behind him. Determined not to accept responsibility for his part in any of it.
Its a time to go back to the 8 of Cups and learn the lesson of walking away, leaving the emotional ties behind. If the advice from the 8 of Cups had been followed in the first place then maybe the 9 of Cups reversed wouldn't have happened.
However it did and only then did I realise that 'getting your dreams, it's strange but it seems a little, well complicated'.