8 of Swords, Rider Waite Smith. |
Blindfolded, hands
bound and surrounded by steely blades.
What is the
situation that has this lady scared and unable or unwilling to move? Is it a situation she has put herself
in? Has something else put her there?
Could it be she's a
victim of bullying or verbal abuse? Worn
down by the constant cruel words, that she comes to believe they hold
truth. Trapped in a way of thinking that
she no longer is able to see or function with true clarity. What other people think and say to us has a
massive impact on our psyche. Tell a
child of 4 or 5 years old that they are ugly often enough and that child grows
into an adult with serious issues around their physical appearance. Tell a person frequently that they are
useless and they give up trying to reach for their dreams. Words cause wounds, I dislike that adage I
was taught when I was young, that sticks and stones may break my bones, but
words will never hurt me. Sticks and
stones cause bruising, possibly even a fracture, it is a visible wound, it
heals. Words cut to the core, the wounds
are invisible but the scars are big. Victims of abuse and bullying are not allowed to think there is a safe haven for them if they ever work their way out of the situation. So there she stands back turned and eyes blinded to the security of the castle at the top of the cliff.
Is she the same
victim but is trying to analyse the situation and feels the need to close
herself off to the emotions it evokes and stopping herself doing anything
impulsive or making any rash moves? I
think we all try to rationalise our less
pleasant situations. We try to work out
if there is any logic in them. We try
and work a way out but first we need to stop and think clearly without external
interference or allowing our emotions choose our next move. This lady could follow the small flow of water at her feet to find a safe exit, but would that mean she is being guided by emotion and not logic?
Could this lady be
someone with an eating disorder?
Punishing herself with her own harsh thoughts? An inability to see the truth of her
situation? Eyes blindfolded by the
illness, she does not see things as they truly are, her skewed thinking is
caging her in, making her a prisoner of this cruel condition's poisonous
thoughts?
The castle up on the
cliff is the 'goal'. If I can lose 1
pound today/ 8 pounds this week, then I
will be happier/ perfect/ prettier/more clever/popular and I can live happily ever
after. However those swords are pretty
well placed and bloody sharp. It then
becomes easier to stay put, not able to see which to turn to reach your castle.
Is she an
alcoholic/drug addict even some one in the darkest stages of depression?
When I see the
figure 8, I see it as the lemniscate the infinity symbol, and as the lemniscate
it depicts a cycle, the ebb and flow.
Whatever this lady's situation, it is a vicious cycle, there appears no
way out, and she remains there,
seemingly quite unconcerned. It
may be more comfortable to stay put and not move away for fear of making the
wrong move. In the words of Albus
Dumbledore, 'to choose what is right, or to choose what is easy'.
At the crux of the
card is the uncomfortable feeling it gives the onlooker. You feel like shouting
instructions to the lady guiding her by telling which way to turn to move
safely out of her predicament. But this
is not what is needed. The woman needs
to do this on her own. She will not find
the solution from someone else's intervention, as hard and as uncomfortable
that may make us feel. Like I said
before this is a cycle, it continues on and on until the lady herself (the
central issue) works out for herself whether to shake her hands from their
bindings, uncovers her eyes and finds her safe path up to the safety of the
castle.
She does not need
'rescuing'. She needs to rescue herself.
It is so hard to stand by and see people you care about struggle time after time.
ReplyDeleteIt is so hard to find you self in the same situation over and over again and the only thing you have to do is to open your eyes and see the people you care about waiting for you step out of your prison.
This card has been my stalker card for a long time but recently I see it less....
I think it's one of the hardest lessons we learn in life. In hindsight it is so easy to see that we always held the key to our release, at the time, it never seems that simple.
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